Dealing with loss

Probably one of the hardest experiences we have to deal with in our lives is when we lose someone we love, which can also include a beloved pet.

Whether the loss is expected and is a relief, or is sudden and traumatic, the result will leave us devastated and dealing with a huge sense of emptiness.

The grieving process will affect us all differently; it's important to honour our emotions and respond accordingly but only when we are ready and in our own way.

There are also other losses that we tend not to look at in the same light.

The loss of a job, our home, a relationship, or our health can all trigger the same grieving cycle as that of the loss of a loved one, but we tend not to allow it the same amount of attention or importance.

Each event of loss will elicit a grieving cycle; this is something that happens regardless of how you think you can cope with the situation, or how 'important' you think it is in your life.

The main stages of the grieving cycle are:

Shock->Denial ->Anger And Guilt ->Despair & Depression ->Acceptance

Problems start when we don't believe certain events, such as being made redundant, warrants the same sort of attention as something we would consider to be more important and crushing. We get annoyed at ourselves for moping around, others can lose patience with us and all in all as much as we want to pull ourselves together, we find it hard to.

It is all too common for many of us to get 'stuck' in one part of the grieving cycle without even realising it.
Clues to this are usually when people are still feeling very angry and can't move beyond wanting to air their views (i.e., rant angrily) and voice how they feel, because they feel justice has not been served.
For others, there is the constant feeling of fear and abandonment or maybe it's the feeling of overwhelming guilt that they could have handled things differently and that it's all their fault.

Ultimately all of these feelings hinder positivity, change and hope coming into their lives.

Coaching is one of many ways where you will be provided with the appropriate space as well as total confidentiality to allow you to express yourself without any fear of judgment.

The sessions can be a huge benefit; they are totally supportive and motivate you to move on in your life with freshness, enthusiasm and wisdom.

If you have been exposed to a event in your life which has left you 'stuck' why not consider Life Coaching and get yourself moving and living your life again.