What have you done for yourself lately?

I spoke to a lovely lady today (a complete stranger at the bus stop) about life.
We first started to talk about the weather (of course) and then quickly entered into the realm of her work, her stresses and her kids!

What astonished me was that she did so much in one day, she packed every moment doing something for everyone else; her boss, her family and her friends, that there was absolutely no time for herself, even at the weekends.
She was great at justifying this situation with many excuses; some of them were quite incredible...

It never ceases to amaze me what we 'believe to be true' in order to make life bearable.

She did look tired and freely admitted to not really spending anything (time/money/or otherwise) on herself as this would be "totally selfish"!

Is this you too?
Are you of the same thinking as my lady on the bus?

Do you think its selfish and bad to spend anytime, money, or positive thoughts on yourself?

In my view being selfish is only when you do things for yourself to the detriment of others...(key word here is detriment).

Looking after yourself however, is vital to your own well-being and also to those you have contact with everyday.
It allows you to be a happy, confident, fulfilled, living and a growing human being.
It also has the fabulous by-product of making you a wonderful role model to all those that know you (especially your children).

Ok so this lovely lady got a free coaching session on her trip into Swindon this morning....and a fabulous bonus of setting 3 goals for herself by the time we got to Wootton Bassett:

1.Have a night out with her girlfriends once a month (her husband can babysit)
2.Get her hair cut by the end of January
3.Research an evening class in Life drawing - to start next week (she was very excited about this one!)

I urge you to do something for yourself today.
Set yourself 3 goals and start feeling alive again.
I will certainly be checking up on my fabulous fellow passenger to make sure she stays on track and replaces any completed goals with new ones.

You are wonderful, you are unique...it's time to wake up and start living YOUR life...you have so much to see, learn and experience!
Go for it!